Okay, I have a moment, so time to weigh in on the NastyPope issue.
Nasty: As I see it, this is first and foremost a community of funny people, creative people, and those of us who fancy themselves as such. That said, my opinion of most of you is based mainly on the comics you draw, and not on the personal insults/jokes, etc. that might be within. I have no problem sticking in or reading a little jab regarding one of our brethren. In fact, the more absurd, the better, for it is far less likely to be mistaken for reality.
That said, though I may not have reacted as you did, I respect your feelings and decision, and see that it did bring up some insightful discussion. I do hope you will feel comfortable enough to rejoin future Cups.
You write some good stuff.
Anyway, I too found the bit about safewords a good analogy. Which brings us to:
LadyJ: Your point about what a bummer to have an immediate safeword right from the start does have some degree of credibility, but consider this scenario: Unbeknownst to you, your new bottom has a horrible phobia of needles. At the very start of your first scene together, you pull out a large needle and ... Wildly Panicked Safeword.
Maybe your new partner's a wet blanket. Or maybe you just happened upon the one forbidden location. Maybe your bottom will be ready to eagerly and incredibly explore all sorts of places, as long as you don't go THERE. And who knows, maybe you get there someday.
But you don't have enough information to know which case is actually taking place. The two of you need some good, honest communication to sort out what's happening. Or you can summarily drop this partner just like that. The choice is yours.
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